'Work your last shift, then block [your boss'] number'; Serial people-pleaser employee finally quits and puts in her 2-week notice, Karen manager ignores it (+ Update)

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    Human - Posted by u/jeembyhees 3 days ago My girlfriend put her two weeks in. Her boss completely ignored it. GF is guilty.
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    Font - So my gf works at a fast food restaurant that is painfully understaffed. Her boss, let's call her M, decided it was a good idea to fire a bunch of employees for "having bad work ethic" before hiring any new ones. M said she would fix this, and so far has not. It's been months. Some employees are working over 60 hours a week.
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    Font - Gf, who was previously working reasonable hours and shifts got the shaft and is now being overworked to the point that it affects her mental health. She's a morning person but working 4pm- 2am. Usually one day off a week.
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    Font - It's so bad that I've texted her during shifts to talk her out of hurting herself more than once. She's depressed, tired every single day from overwork, and often gets called in on her days off.
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    Font - Gf is a very kind and empathetic person, sometimes to her own detriment. She can't say no. She has a guilt problem. She has episodes when people are mad at her, and it's very difficult for her to put herself before anyone. Naturally, I feel like her coworkers use this to their advantage.
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    Font - Just last week, she finally put in her two weeks notice. She lined up an interview at a better job just after the two weeks are up. This week, M tells her she "paid it no mind" and put her on the schedule past the two weeks anyways.
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    Font - Gf is now grappling with guilt, because the restaurant will still be understaffed and she feels that she will be screwing people over. She says she feels bad because it could be worse and M has been nice and patient with her. I've told her she doesn't need to return after the next week is up, but I fear that she will get called in anyways and give in because that's the way she is.
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    Font - I REALLY want my gf to leave the job that's making her want to harm herself. I asked her if I could post this and will be showing her the comments. Do you have any words of advice/encouragement that will let her know that she can do this, and that she's making the right choice?
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    Font - Posted by u/jeembyhees 2 days ago GF guilty about leaving job UPDATE: Message from GF Hi everyone! OP's GF here :))
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    Font - I wanted to say thank you to everybody for the encouragement (and to the people accusing me of abuse as well, because those replies were actually pretty funny; I would never do anything to hurt OP, nor would I ever force them into helping me deal with my episodes. I'm working on learning to cope with them healthily and have been able to, at least recently, go a notable amount of time without self-harm).
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    Font - I talked with OP about it when it came up and had already decided on not going back, so this post was more about feeling more confident in my decision; a number of my coworkers, some of whom I consider friends,
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    Font - have tried discouraging me from quitting, which made me doubt my decision. I've been at this job for a long time and have grown close to the people I've worked with (yes, including M), so this hasn't been an "easy out" situation.
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    Font - And on the note of going to therapy, that's next on my list! I have a psychiatrist and am working on finding a therapist who suits my needs. I struggle with a lot of issues related to anxiety, people-pleasing, and self-worth (none of which are new to me, as I've had these issues since childhood), so I'm hoping to be able to discuss and improve them with the help of a professional.
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    Font - tidymaze 3 days ago She didn't even have to give them two weeks. That's a courtesy that should only be extended to good employers. "M" is not "nice and patient", she's a manipulator who admitted that she ignored your gf's resignation.
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    Font - GF, if you're reading this, work your last shift, then block their numbers. Your mental health is more important than coworkers who will forget you exist in a month or two. Have your partner bring back your uniforms. Don't go back there. Ever.
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    Font - Farscape_rocked 2 days ago Yep. This is a deliberate manipulative act by M. M has already ignored the need to hire more staff because exploiting the few remaining ones is working well for M.
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    Font - M has proven to be a liar saying they'd hire more staff and not doing, now they've ignored a resignation letter. OP's GF, leave. EDIT: OP's gf blames M for a lack of staff, not the people who have left. When OP's gf leaves the remaining staff will continue to blame M and not OP's gf.
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    Font - AmethystTrinket 2 days ago Yeah no one would blame another employee, especially when M has a two week notice, perfect amount of time to start hiring. But of course they never hired more people to replace the last batch so they probably won't.
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    Font - I wouldn't give this "manager" the time of day. A manager is supposed to help employees do their jobs well. If they're understaffed and overworked, that's managements fault. It's literally their whole job.
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    Font - SquashCat56. 2 days ago Also, a resignation isn't a discussion or something the boss can agree or disagree with. A resignation is an employee informing the boss when they will be leaving. When you have resigned, you have resigned. Regardless of what your boss thinks of it or how they handle it.
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    Font - Shamed IntoNormalcy 2 days ago The only power an employee has in many jobs is to quit. It shouldn't be surprising that an employer would want to take even that away. 173 Reply Share
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    Font - speckledcreature 2 days ago I will add when she has her last shift to make sure she tells her coworkers what happened. Otherwise the boss is sure to throw her under the bus. 536 Reply Share Suspicious_Quarter14 2 days ago It took me a long time to figure out that your employer will cut your throat in a second, but expect you to lie down your life for them. Your GF needs to quit, immediately.
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    Font - art_decorative 2 days ago GF, this is your friendly Internet mom giving you permission to take care of yourself and let the restaurant deal with its own mess. You are not responsible for others who are incapable of planning for foreseeable events. Never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, especially when that person has the means to fire up their own furnace.
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